Name-calling, yelling, belittling, using put downs, constant blaming and criticizing, threatening to kill you, a friend, family member or pet.
Giving you the "silent treatment," accusing you of having affairs, not permitting you to use the phone, embarrassing you in front of others, bragging about infidelity, forcing you to stay in the house or locking you out of the house, harming pets, threatening or attempting suicide, monitoring your behavior.
Taking your money, putting all bills in your name, selling or destroying your possessions or property, making you account for every dime you spend, quitting or losing jobs, forcing you to write bad checks or commit crimes, not allowing you to work, taking or disabling your car.
Rape, forcing sex with partner's friends, forbidding birth control, forcing distasteful sex acts on you, beating if sex is refused.
Slapping, hitting, punching, choking, threatening with weapon, banging head into wall, dragging through the house, burning with cigarettes, throwing down stairs, pushing out of a car, blocking your entrance or exit, pushing, tripping, restraining.
Abuse in an intimate relationship most often occurs in relatively predictable patterns. Victims become aware of the warning signs and find themselves "walking on eggshells" at those times.
Here are three typical phases victims experience in the cycle of violence*:
*Adapted from The Battered Woman by Lenore Walker
It's important to understand that only you can gauge or predict when violence may occur and how severe it will be. Please, listen to your instincts.
Domestic Violence is a crime. In the state of Ohio, Ohio Revised Code 2929.25 states that:
Upon filing criminal domestic violence charges, the victim or arresting officer may file a motion requesting the court to issue a temporary protection order, designed to ensure the safety and protection of the victim and his/her children. It will order the abuser to stay away, prohibiting his/her presence at the victim's residence, school, business, or place of employment, or those of his/her children. For further information regarding Ohio's Domestic Violence Law and protection orders, click here.
Following are some key statistics on domestic violence. However, keep in mind that because many victims may choose not to disclose their abuse due to feelings of shame or fear of stigma, domestic violence is extremely difficult to measure with absolute precision.
Sadly, domestic violence impacts every community in the world. Here in the U.S., thirty percent of people say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband or boyfriend in the past year. Domestic violence not only affects women, but men and same-sex relationship partners as well.
The entire community pays a cost for domestic violence and the resources needed to address it. Each year, the tally for the resources needed to address domestic violence exceeds $5.8 billion (CDC, 2003).